Facing Fear


I used to live in a state of absolute terror 24 hours a day, seven days a week. I always had a reason to be anxious and worried. If things weren’t going according to plan, I feared that my life would be destroyed and I would have no way of fixing things. If things were going according plan, I thought up every possible scenario that could ruin my parade and I’d live in fear of each and every single circumstance.
Living in fear is not living at all. It’s barely surviving. Living in fear means that every second of every day, we’re tortured by what could happen, what’s going to happen, and how that might leave us in limbo. It’s living off of hypothetical circumstances. In hindsight, I see that I created a lot of my own chaos back then. Physical symptoms such as lack of sleep were signs of an emotional, mental, and spiritual unrest in my life. I wasn’t dealing with several issues appropriately and they in turn, were dealing with me.

I think that fear is a healthy response to a dangerous situation. But in excess, living in fear becomes the dangerous situation. You don’t think clearly because you probably can’t think at all. You expend so much mental energy in worrying, sighing, fantasising, and slowly deteriorating, that you have very little time to be productive at all. So when you eventually snap out of your fear, you look around and find yourself in the very situation that you were always afraid of: being helpless.

The enemy is a crafty intelligent little devil too. He picks up on your fears and anxieties and he exploited them at every chance that he can. I consulted friends about my endless worries, coworkers who I never should’ve trusted, family members, just about everyone.  As soon as I started spending quiet time in the morning, my fear level decreased. Although we’re needy, sometimes unbearable, and mostly irrational, we have to look within to figure a way out.

How many times have you been in a situation and you feared the worst? When you think back,  did that situation turn out to be 110% as bad as you imagined? Write  out a list of your worst fears,  you may walk right into these fearful situations after you do but that  is because it might be the right time for you to walk right up to your fear and deliver you  for good. Now when you write your list and read over it have a look at some of the things on it and look at how silly they were. The rest you just have to face, no more hiding or making excuses.

We all have to make a decision to either stand still in fear or move forward, that is a choice that only you can make.

Ambrose Redmoon said: Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear

Good luck

 

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4 thoughts on “Facing Fear

  1. You’re right that positivity is often the most realistic approach. But I would like to hear how you would deal with conflict situations, where positivity is not the answer: for example, what should you do in a situation where a colleague habitually puts you down, or undermines you? In such situations positivity only encourages them – and if there’s one sort of situation that over a long period of time can lead to people being profoundly unhappy, it’s when someone you have to interact with is at you on a regular and predictable basis.

    • I hear you my friend, the first thing I would say is Welcome Objections, try to take as much constructive criticism as you can, remember its OK to fail, after all that is how we learn and grow. Secondly, as the old saying goes you can’t please everyone. You will always get the “NAY” sayers who will try and rain on your parade and try and bring you down. These people will persevere in trying to stop you from reaching your potential, so YOU have to be resilient in the pursuit of YOUR goals. You are a GOAL CHASER which means you are chasing YOUR goals, nobody elses!! Thirdly, work your butt off, for every obstacle in your way, you have to use your mental and physical toughness to overcome them. And last but not least TRUST YOURSELF!! if you are not going to do it Who else will?

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