Break your selfie

Is the ubiquitous selfie artistic expression or narcissistic expression (hint: It might be time to break your selfie addiction)? Lucie Foundation’s Photographer of the Year, Sandro, puts his lens to work to reshape our selfie culture, and the results are all kinds of beautiful.

Once smartphones came equipped with cameras that face backward to the user, social media transformed seemingly overnight, ushering in our glossy selfie culture. Almost a third of all photos taken by people aged 18-24: selfies. The most retweeted message in history: selfie. The Oxford Dictionaries Word of the Year 2013: Yep, sel·fie. [1][2]

Currently, 93 million selfies are taken daily. It’s a statistic that bears repeating. Each and every day, 93 million times, someone purses their lips, invariably tilts their head downward, roughly 11 degrees, and clicks, consciously intent on projecting a very specific image of their gorgeous, desirable life. [3][4]
Sharing affirming selfies can drum up feelings of empowerment, but they can also reinforce society’s obsession with appearances. At their worst, selfies can program us to fixate on our looks and judge ourselves on the basis of physical attractiveness rather than our accomplishments. Moreover, they may change how our friends see us. A recent psychological study suggests that the more selfies you post on social media, the more likely you are to alienate your friends and become less likeable. [5]

Fortunately there’s a remedy for this selfie insanity: Stop taking 93 million selfies every day.

It’s time to break our selfies. To challenge ourselves and the digital soul-stealers affixed to the end of our extended arms to capture less-plastic, more-human expressions of who we really are.

It means capturing you and your life with fewer filters. With visible blemishes. A gnarly scar. No more cropping out the gritty fringe details – because that’s usually where the good stuff lives. And that goes for all of us – guys, we know that you are twice as likely as the ladies to manipulate your photos. [6]

And while we’re at it, we could probably all stand to be not-so-snap-happy, with a little less priority on documenting our experiences and a little more focus on living them.

It means less emphasis on the final glossy outcome – the abs, the derriere, the tris­– and more celebration of the assets that pushed us there – the heart, the soul, the twisted mouth leaking the guttural yowl.
It means no more head-tilting, duck-facing or doe-eyeing. And it means seeing more of your fire, your depth, your failures, your humbleness. It means full recognition that there is no auto-enhance button in life; but rather, that reaching our potential takes work. Agonizing, painstaking, glorious work.

It means capturing something real, honest. Something more. Something human. Something more human.

Let’s see what you’ve got. Let’s see you pushed to your boundaries. Let’s see you downright tribal, primal, defeated and fetal. And then, let’s see you again, 60 seconds later, when you know there’s more. When you rise back up on your feet and chase it all over again. Let’s see you beautiful. Let’s see you #breakyourselfies.

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Boss up

Boss up or be bossed around!

That’s what I learned recently. Too many people are on a power trip, looking out somebody who they can vent their frustration at, or get to do the dirty work so that they can look good.

I Guarentee that you will be told “it’s a team effort, and you are not working as part of the team” but believe me, you will know who has the team agenda at heart and who has other plans.

So be strong, be smart and don’t let anybody take you for a fool

Make your Mark.

Change your thinking, change your world

Here is a few pieces of great advice, let me know what your thoughts are

If you want to get somewhere, you have to know where you want to go and how to get there. Then never, never, never give up.

The secret of life isn’t what happens to you, but what you do with what happens to you.

Help other people to cope with their problems and your own will be easier to cope with.

Never use the word impossible seriously again. Toss it into the verbal wastebasket.

Self-trust is the first secret of success. So believe in and trust yourself.

Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven’t half the strength you think they have.

Joy increases as you give it, and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself. In giving it, you will accumulate a deposit of joy greater than you ever believed possible.

How you think about a problem is more important than the problem itself – so always think positively.

Go at life with abandon; give it all you’ve got. And life will give all it has to you.

Make this week YOUR week